By helping me see my flaws as part of a larger pattern that I can live with -- more like an overextension of my virtues than a repudiation of them -- it has introduced some optionality around conflict and self-righteousness and forgiveness that wasn’t there before.
There are nine wolves inside of you
Of course the strongest transmission of this "wound and gift are inseparable" comes to me from Vajrayana via Luminous, David Chapman, etc.